But someone with an avoidant attachment style is the worst person you could ever date if you're anxious. The anxious partner will want intimacy, while the avoidant partner will want space.
In fact, in every relationship, there should be at least one person with a secure attachment style. If you have an anxious attachment style, stop thinking you shouldn't be needy.
The key is to find someone with a secure attachment style because the secure person will be able to handle you being needy.